I've never learned anything while I was talking. - Larry King
my personality in zurich is vastly different from when i was singapore.
i am much quieter here. less friendly. everyone in my workplace wonder why am i so quiet or why am i so shy.
the truth is:
this is because people around me right now are people who do not listen and yet they talk alot of "facts". most of them are not sincere in listening and loveeee to hear themselves talk as if people are so interested in their stories. and they can't stop! therefore i would rather not talk. what i had learn so far is to tune out whenever the talker is talking because it doesn't make good sense and it just makes one look ignorant sometimes. worse, they dont like people to correct them because they always rebut back and think that they are right. however, they just look more foolish.
it is the most irritating that whenever i start to talk, i would be interrupted immediately. from this i conclude that the person do not actually want to hear your story. speaking to those type of people is like speaking to a cow. seriously!
it is fucking annoying when one person ask "how are you" ten thousand times a day. and when you answered that you are fine, they would ask "are you sure". seriously i hate this sentence so much!
i can't stand it.
some advise for those people who do not listen!
Listen. Do not have an opinion while you listen because frankly, your opinion doesn’t hold much water outside of Your Universe. Just listen. Listen until their brain has been twisted like a dripping towel and what they have to say is all over the floor.
We listen in order to learn and retain information. If we are speaking, we are not listening or learning anything to add to our sum of knowledge. This is why the first step to effective listening is to stop talking!
There are people who, instead of listening to what is being said to them, are already listening to what they are going to say themselves.
I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.
You are educated when you have the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or self-confidence.